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May 3, 2009

Going Home Again

Filed under: Scribbles

 

Home is not the place I sleep

it is the place that wakes me to my senses

Even before I land, the street lamps do an arati

in the dark cloudless skies of my Madras.

I will be within the first few to clear customs

and get out of the airport to give my mom the most non-customary hug.

We shed a few tears of happiness as my dad and I have a respectfully affectionate exchange of looks.

Then, we get to the car and I’ll say how hungry I am to eat idlis.

My mom says ‘you used to hate them during school-days,

so I’ve made phulkas and matar paneer for you.

But not to worry, I have the batter for Idli too.’

This at 3am when the whole world is sleeping.

Then I talk all the way to 7.00am,

even as my mom draws Kolam

boils the milk and makes filter coffee decoction

and my dad gets his Hindu newspaper.

I just talk and talk.

Meanwhile the milkman and the paperman have updated our housing community of my arrival and people have started coming to our house to greet me.

My dear daughter is so quiet and they take her to their house for giving sweets.

They say she is like my husband in her quietness :)

I still talk and be my own naughty self and tease them all single-handedly,

My mom feeds food in my mouth now that I am not hungry after all the love showered on me.

Then, she asks me to go lock the room and sleep.

I know if I don’t listen to her, I will be in trouble and do as she says.

As I doze off, I can hear phone ringing, my husband making sure I’ve reached home safely.

 

 

Entry to

Collection - Pretend Tag

Filed under: Lifestyle

I am going to pretend I got tagged by Vidya on Collections.

I am going to be very honest, I admire and encourage all kinds of collections my friends have - magnets, bells, shot glasses, crosses, books, key chains, stamps, coins, ….But, it is not for me. When I travel I don’t like to be bogged with making memories, if it makes any sense. To me, I like to see things as I see at that time. Take a few pictures with people I care about, not the usual sceneries, sunsets, or sunrises…but just people not places. Always I end up collecting the contacts of fellow tourists and even passengers, so in a way I can say I collect lives :) No matter how many times it has happened, I am always amazed when the person sitting next to me gives his/her business card, especially in the present day culture that treasures privacy.

I have been very conscious of the fact that I live out of one suitcase and even before that my husband’s uncertainty client site and before that my dad’s transferable job have always made me give more importance to things that cannot be left behind - memories to cherish.

That made clear, I do collect dinner sets, crystalware, flatwares, servewares and other things related to eating food. I think this has to do with the  fact kitchen/dining time is very important to me and the people I eat food with will always be considered as a part of me no matter we part or not. I have more dinner plates made out of more kinds of materials than most I know. Even if I have a large gathering I will never need paper plates that I detest :D

My first plate resembled a TV, a square with a circle and rectangle on the right side to hold curries, chutneys, or in my case my mom-made mango jam for idlis and dosas and anything else in the world. I loved it and used it until my mom gave it away to our maid since she thought I had outgrown it. Giving away to maids was one way my mom did what I would have otherwise raised a hell for. She smart.

Then I liked regualar round stainless steel plates for the rest of my life in parents place.

When I got married and landed in US, two of the first gifts I received that same day were a fine china dinner set from Mikasa for four and a matcing coffee serving set. It was a delicate english pattern with blue flowers and green vine. I still own it and take it out only for special occasions for just my family of three. It is a very personal gift since both of those friends are in NJ and OR, faraway from where I am. I do use the coffee sets more often due to my love for tea.

When I returned to India for the first time, my parents gifted me with a La Opala complete set for 6, coffee mugs and tea cups and saucers and the whole thing. I was wondering how to bring it back to my house 24 hours of flight time away without breaking. My dad said he will pack it and check it in and assured me that nothing will break, it did not. I love him. I treasure this one too and use it sparingly. Much later, my daughter did break one teacup when she had just started walking. My husband thought that either tears were going to well up or I was going to yell but I was not upset at all, I found it funny just like I always adore her. After all, she was learning that dropping things on carpet was ok but not on kitchen tiles.

Now that we had our own house, I told my husband we need to buy 1 set for everday use - and off we went to Mikasa and got one that we do use everyday and actually got 2 coffee mugs broken too.

Recently I had gone to Mexico and had to buy myself a classic blue and white dinner set in memory of all the dinners that were served to me in kind homes every night and the fun dance nights we had. This we are using a lot too.

As we made more friends, thanks to my daughter and husband, I bought a dozen corelle dinner plates and a dozen stainless plates and tumblers for kids.

My mother-in-law sent 4 TV plates for my daughter and her friends and she loves it. Once again proves the circle of life. :)

My friend gave me coffee mugs as graduation gift for my MBA realizing the mugs of coffee it took to be a Dean’s Scholar. Those are my personal faves.

And here is  my new favourite for cappuccino:

My daughter recently broke a crystal drinkware and "cleaned" it up before we woke up. I was worried and I told her crystal contains lead which is poisonous and next time she should let us clean it. I also told her I was sad that she broke it, now the set will always remain incomplete since it is not in stores anymore and we cannot just like that replace it since that would be unfair to the remaining set. She volunteered not to touch the crystalware without asking me and conveyed her apologies. Was I exploiting her emotions? I don’t know…

May 1, 2009

tuesdays with Morrie - Mitch Albom

Filed under: Books

 One day after work, I felt very lonely, family and friends seperated by time and distance. I questioned my decision to follow my career all along knowing I love it truly. Then I remembered some of my close friends who had bigger problems than loneliness, especially those who were terminally ill and their living days were numbered. That same day, I received an email from someone I respect and adore a lot, and it was obvious I had lost this person from my life. I suddenly felt lost in the ocean of life looking for a beacon of light. I randomly saw this book’s synopsis on bn.com:

Maybe it was a grandparent, or a teacher. Someone older who understood you when you were young and searching, who helped you see the world as a more profound place, and gave you advice to help you make your way through it.

I immediately wanted to read it that I actually bought the book at 11.00pm for all of $15, it is a very big amount for me and I always use public libraries. I am glad I did that, I am going to send it to my sister. Sometimes, when I have a good book close to me, I feel I am with a good friend. My loneliness vanishes.

Morrie’s preparation for his death with serenity and love is what this book revolves around. There is another book I read with the same theme, The Last Lecture, but Morrie’s teachings stick in my mind more.

He talks about

  1. how we need to live life like we will never live another day. He says "learn how to die, and you learn how to live."
  2. how to detach from emotions by first letting it wash through you completely.
  3. dying peacefully. And for that you need to love the way you lived your life - forgive others, but most importantly forgive yourself for your errors.
  4. how youth is so overrated when with age we become better persons.
  5. Money is not the primary source of joy as our culture paints.
  6. We live after we die in the loving memories of others.
  7. Spouse and kids are irreplaceable joys of life.
  8. Love is the only rational act. Love or die.emoticon

Just like that, on that same day I found my high school math teacher on a social netowrking site. She had left a message for me saying she remembered me and had spelled my name in the exact wrong way I rebelliously spelled during my teen years :) . I was exhilarated. I realized I always have a ‘Morrie’ by my side. They just are different physical entities. Even though I have been losing them, I have always found them back, just like Mitch.

April 30, 2009

Exercise

Filed under: Scribbles

The word reminds me of math

That I so dreaded

As I left school I always fretted


I will decide to take a bath

And do anything but the allotted

Somehow I always got promoted

 


Now, looking back, it was a path

I followed that gave me the heart

To choose in my life the right start

 


Because it is through mistakes you learn

How to correct the reality that is torn

Had I done my exercises on time

I might’ve have been a bigger dime

But what is life without a fall and a climb.

 

My entry to

April 28, 2009

And we wonder why other countries think we are self-possessd

Filed under: People

 I am not watching you CNN

I voted for Obama, but seriously not for his race. I did not think it was time we had a black president, just a right one. And Michelle is his wife, that is all. For all you know, Obama might have his own Lewinsky and I am fine with that too, since his personal life is his own.

And, India doesn’t need any messages from Michelle, we had our first woman prime minister within 35 years of independence, US is counting 230+ yet. We have elected political leaders from all kinds of minorities, not just based sex or color, to top it off - we don’t even consider that as accomplishments, just patriotism and democracy at work.

CNN, stop this and try to focus on ETHNIC CLEANSING going in Sri Lanka, AIDS in Africa and India, …. Even better, focus on economy, ECOnomy, and education and health systems. It doesn’t matter if Michelle is Aryan or not,  RESULTS do

The Bridge Across Forever - Richard Bach

Filed under: Books, Quotes

PLEASE DO NOT READ THIS BOOK, not worth the time

 

There are no mistakes. The events we bring upon ourselves, no matter how unpleasant, are necessary in order to learn what we need to learn; whatever steps we take, they’re necessary to reach the places we’ve chosen to go.

That’s what learning is, after all: not whether we lose the game, but how we lose and how we’ve changed because of it and what we take away from it that we never had before, to apply to other games. Losing, in a curious way, winning.

Anyone you want to keep in your life - never take them for granted!

April 25, 2009

The Kite Runner - Khaled Hosseini

Filed under: Books

My friend could not stop singing this book’s praises. I had earlier picked up Hosseini’s sequel to this - A Thousand Splendid Suns and put it away for some forgotten reason. So, I was not listening to her. But again she told me to try this and it is a much better book than its sequel. Ash: For you, a thousand times over :-)

I expected this book to be all about terrorists, Osama Bin Laden, and USA. Pleasantly surprising, it was not. It was about a child, dad, friend, fear, courage, and basic humanity. I almost could feel the connection with Amir until he went back into Kabul. And after reading this book, olden Kabul appears very similar to my native town in South India. Even the words are from hindi.

My own mother along with her parents and siblings moved into India from Burma during the civil war in Burma. My mom has told me of the house she lived until she was 10 and how her dad used to throw all these parties. My grandfather was the world to my mother until he passed away with a cardiac arrest. My mother’s descriptions of Burma fits perfectly of Amir’s dad’s Kabul.

Also, the way Amir treats his dad, is exactly how I treat my mom, she is larger than life figure for me. She helps anyone who goes to her for help, she is very fair, and very courageous. But, there are still things I find as flaws in her, just as any daughter is entitled too. I love my mom, I hate my mom, just like Amir did with his dad. Everything I am today, my life in USA, my husband, everything is a gift to me from my mom. I love her, I miss her. She is alive though but I keep postponing my visit to India due to some random reasons. No one can leave my mom’s house without the stomachs filled with a lot of tasty food. My cousin used to say, devi athai veetttukku ponaa, mothallaiye pothumnu sonnathaan rendaavathu thadavaikku apram ezhundhrikka viduvaanga - If you tell enough food, aunt will still serve it 2 more times before you can leave the table.

Because we always had visitors from morning till night, we always used to have tea/coffee and food at all times in our house. Nowadays, I don’t get that kind of treatment even in Chennai. But my mom is still the same. Since she is getting older, she will quietly order at the nearby Karaikudi / Ponnusamy :) She will not let anyone leave the house without kai nanaikkama - wetting their hands to clean after eating food.

My mom also spent more time solving the miseries of her friends’ lives than she ever spent time with me privately. Even on days of my celebration it felt like her whole world was invited and she spent her time taking care of them. This might be one of the reasons I try to spend a lot of 1 on 1 time with my child than throwing parties for her birthdays. But, I have also inherited the fact I cannot not invite anyone to my parties, and in USA it is not feasible to invite all our friends home on the same day :(

And my mom will always want to do more to others than she gets, and her left did not know what her right hand did.

And just like Amir, I always feel guilty that I have not come even close to mom in her magnanimity and generosity and patience. A friend teases me that the G in my name stands for guilty.

Amir himself becomes a bigger man than his dad by accepting Hazara into his family. Although I possibly cannot imagine that in my case, I am peaceful and thankful I have the mom I do.emoticon

I wish books like this replaced history and civics textbooks in school.

 

Some lines that took my breath away:

"They do nothing but thumb their prayer beads and recite a book written in a tongue they don’t even understand." He took a sip. "God help us all if Afghanistan ever falls into their hands."

And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everone else does too.

After everything he’d built, planned, fought for, fretted over, dreamed of, this was the summation of his life: one disppointing son and two suitcases.

I reached across the table and put my hand on his. My student hand, clean and soft, on his laborer’s hand, grubby and calloused. I thought of all the trucks, train sets and bikes he’d bought me in Kabul. Now America. One last gift for Amir.

When we left, everyone was sad to see him go. Kabul, Peshawar, Hayward. Same old Baba, I thought, smiling.

I took the keys, stunned. I looked from him to the car. "You’ll need it to go to college," he said. I took his hand in mine. Squeezed it. My eyes were tearing over and I was glad for the shadows that hid our faces. "Thank you, Baba."

There was so much goodness in my life. So much happiness. I wondered whether I deserved any of it.

The idea of fatherhood unleashed a swirl of emotions in me. I found it frightening, inviogorating, daunting, and exhilarating all at the same time. What sort of father would I make, I wondered. I wanted to be just like Baba and I wanted to be nothing like him.

A man who has no conscience, no goodness, does not suffer.

And that I believe is what true redemption is, Amir jan, when guilt leads to good.

April 22, 2009

Love

Filed under: Quotes, Scribbles

‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

That is one thing I will give my all

Even if it leads to many a fall

Love can only make me tall

Those who don’t hear the call

Are nothing but small.

 

 

 

 

To know more of the quote click here


My humble entry to

Who is a Best Friend?

Filed under: People

This was a question Anand had on his blog sometime back.

And I commented on it just as I felt.

I would really like to know how people feel about this.

April 10, 2009

Maestros in Concert - University of Arizona Presents

Filed under: Fine Arts

This was a concert featuring Ustad Zakir Hussain (Tabla) and Pandit Shiv Kumar (Santoor). It lasted for 2 hours and felt like 2 miutes. The music was heavenly. Started off with a solo by Shiv Kumar and then Zakir Hussain joined in with his Tabla. We were requested not to take any pictures but the scene will always stay in mind. Shiv Kumar on center stage, Hussain to his right facing sideways. I could not believe his humility and he did not even utter a single word. It looked like he was a die hard fan of Shiv Kumar. All in all, they were a great team and it was nice combo of tabla and santoor. Even the fine tuning of the instruments before the performance started was very melodious. The music was astoundingly mesmerizing.

I was exhilarated.

Thank you U of A, Tucson.

April 5, 2009

One Night @ The Call Center - Chetan Bhagat

Filed under: Books

A wonderful book that cannot be put down until finished.

Vroom was my favorite character. He says things like:

Think abouth this: The people who gave birth to me can’t stop hating each other. What does that tell you about me? Half my genes must be fighting with the other half. No wonder I am so fucking messed up.

Bakshi would be the most horrible boss anybody could have.

 

A defintie read. I especially like the God factor added with a logical turn at the end notes.

February 7, 2009

Mazatlan, Mexico 2009

Filed under: Travel

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February 1, 2009

I miss family

Filed under: Lifestyle

I have never been away from home during weekends and it is killing me to do that. I promise myself to never be away during weekends after this trip. Please let it end soon.

January 28, 2009

2009 - Durango, Mexico

Filed under: People, Travel

I am here for work, but as most know me, I do not know where my profession ends and self begins. So, bottomline - I am a very passionate worker - Krishna would not be proud of me. But, I am definitely trying to follow Gita to the dot.

Anyway, mi poquito habla espanol (speak little Spanish). And, I am a very picky eater too, plus a vegetarian. Here, except for desserts, some life is used in each dish. Even beans and rice have chicken broth in it. Soon, I was avoiding food and eating more dessert and drinking more chocolate than any sane person.

I fell sick, I was hospitalized. It had a lot to do with the altitude than my eating, me thinks.

People in Durango cared a lot about me that not for a second did I feel alone, even in hospital bed. The plant doctor was rubbing my forehead. The controller had my stuff packed and delivered to the hotel I stayed at. The plant manager, every morning at breakfast tells me how much he is worried about me, he said I could have gotten into coma if I had not been hospitalized at the right time. I think he was just trying to scare me to pay more attention to my health and food habits.

When I came back, the hotel employees would give me 10000 suggestions on how I could have avoided the fainting incident :)

They let me use their kitchen freely at any time of the day. The same at the plant cafeteria too. To top it off, one night a hotel employee knocked at 10.30 pm…I hastily dressed myself and opened the door…expecting a call from work. He told me that the people at the hotel’s restaurant were worried that I did not go to dine that day. Then I explained to him that I had gone to a nearby place on the road :D

But, here is the bottomline: Even without a proper verbal communication, people of Mexico made it very clear to me that they cared about other humans that they may not interact with after a few days and did not know a few days earlier. It was as though I was their pet animal whose language they understood by heart and they greatly cared for. I can live in Durango for the rest of my life.

I just wonder what the hell is it that people use violence for when there is so much love in everyone’s hearts.

 

I have recovered completely since then, esta bien.

January 22, 2009

44. Barack Hussein Obama

Filed under: People

I was thinking of not writing anymore on my blog, only because now I am keeping a personal journal and see no need in sharing my opinions with the online community. But, I just wantd to say some about Obama.

  1. I am very proud of him and very happy for him. He pursued a fairy tale that came true and everyone wants to be a part of it.
  2. I truly want him to succeed. Even if he doesn’t, I believe he is a leader with the right intentions.
  3. His wife is the best first-lady with her regular looks and extraordinary brilliance.
  4. Obama ROCKS!!!!

January 11, 2009

The Other Side

Filed under: Scribbles

My God is right, the only One.

Why is it then I am not "better" than the sinner is?

Maybe God is testing me…

to see if I do my best,

my best to kill the sinner.

 

My government is right.

Bordering country is unbelievable.

I am patriotic and willing to give,

give my life and take that of many others,

in order to make my flag fly higher.

 

I do not believe in my self-will.

To make sure I am not confused,

I have to be the only existent.

 

 

I am wrong.

I am wrong.

All I want to do is love.

Love is God,

Love is right,

Love is being respectful, unconditionally.

 

I  may win,

I may lose,

But life is definitely a game.

A game where ends and means are not always related.

A game where outcome is unimportant.

Integrity of the players makes life valuable.

Whether I like it or not, I am in the field.

I will not devalue life, the opportunity that cannot be taken for granted..but nurtured.

 

My God is right, and the only One.

Why is it then I am not Better,

but the sinner is?

Maybe God is testing me…

to see if I do my best,

best to love and forgive.

Better yet, not to judge.

 

My government is right.

Bordering country is unbelievable.

I am patriotic and willing to give,

give  all to meet midway.

Better yet, find a way to peace and joy.

 

I do not believe in my self-will.

To make sure I am not confused,

Let me be humble,

Better yet, see the OTHER SIDE!!!

 

 

 

My Entry to this week’s  

Nikolai Gogol: Diary of a Madman and Other Stories - Translated by Ronald Wilks

Filed under: Books

Russian literature awes me in its description and the way words fall in a line, mostly like how I think in Tamil and not how I am taught to write in English. Ever since I read Jhumpa Lahiri’s Namesake, I’ve thought of reading Gogol. The final push was when I requested Tolstoy’s Kingdom of God is Within You (The book  that gave Mahatma thoughts on realizing non-violence in addition to Bhagavad Gita) and PPLS has ordered it just for me:) AND I am 154th in line for The Last Lecture, REALLY!!!!

The story is about a government document copier, Akaky Akakievich. All that he ever cared about was his job, not what his co-workers thought of him, social life, or family. Then one day, he is in need of an overcoat. After months of planning and budgeting, he gets a new one and the whole world notices him. As he begins to enjoy the coat, he encounters thieves who take it away. His attempts to find it are a waste in his corrupted country. One official yells at him cruel enough to make Akaky sick and die.

But, he comes as a ghost and teaches a lesson to the citizens of St. Petersburg.

Gogol’s words are ordered very logically in place, if you can understand what I mean. The words are just how a non-native English speaker thinks. I enjoyed the wordiness, description of places, people, emotions brought out in this short story. I lived in various characters myslf. St.Petersburg, now Leningrad, was brought alive in Gogol’s creation and reminded of many cities I have been in. Government’s inefficiency and corruption portrayed in 1842 is still true in most places of the world, discouraging as it is.

Somehow, we all can see ourselves in tiny bits in the various characters in this shortstory.

Somehow, every city is partially described in this too, and so are all emotions.

Dostoyevsky was right in saying We have all come from under THE OVERCOAT.

January 2, 2009

Divine and Human and Other Short Stories by Leo Tolstoy - Peter Sekirin

Filed under: Religion, Books

All the questions I have on God, Socialism, and a variety of other issues have obviously risen in Tolstoy’s mind too. And, he has written these short stories for people like me who have a lifestyle that will not accomodate reading long essays. I liked every story in this collection.

1. The Son of a Thief: Only God can judge others, we only have the right to forgive and love.

2. The repentant Sinner: If you ask for forgivance, God will will forgiv you, no matter what. I found this a little against my own philosophy and faith, according to which you reap what you sow.

3. The Archangel Gabriel: Means of worship is not as important as the heart that does it.

4. The Prayer: "Why pray to God if he can do such terrible things?" I have asked this question a zillion times and have even questioned the presence of God. but now I think, Tolstoy was correct in this story…We humans can never understand the masterplan and it is not right for us to question the happenings of life, just give it our best.

5. The Poor People: poor fisherman’s family with a daily struggle to feed 5 kids adopts 2 more neighbor’s children when they are orphaned. Are they really poor? No.

6. A coffeehouse in the city of Surat: My favorite. People from different religion fight about one true God.

7. Kornei Vasiliev: Story of Cheat, forgivance, repentance.

8. A grain of rye, the size of a chicken egg: Work is worship

9. The Berries: I did not read it. know not why.

10. Stones: Confess our sins no matter how small they are. Like a sculptor of your own statue, keep hipping away the sins.

11. The Big Dipper: charity is great.

12. The power of childhood: An accused is freed as the society cares not to create an orphan.

13. Why did it happen:

14. Divine and Human: Same situation between 2 people brings out different outcomes, based on ego & belief. The one who storngly believes in an ideal while reducing self to zero becomes divine. Whereas, the other, leader of the first is a mere human due to denial.

15. Requirements of love: it is UNCONDITIONAL.

16. Sisters: I do not understand why Tolstoy thought prostitutes need to be treated like sisters…

December 31, 2008

Banana Walnut Cake

Filed under: Food Blogs

My daughter wanted to decorate a cake that she baked herself. I wanted to spend time with her. Only thing is, I have never baked cakes from scratch. So, I thought of baking Walnut Banana bread in a cake pan.

Here is the Recipe from Vara. Our family secret ingredient was the Italian wine - Lambrusco, I am addicted to it.

Ingredients

2 - eggs

2 cups - unbleached all-purpose flour

3/4 cup - oil

3 - ripe bananas

1tsp - Baking soda

1/2 tsp - Baking powder

1/2 cups chopped walnuts

2tsp - vanilla extract

Directions:

1. Blend eggs, oil, vanilla extract, sugar and banana well with spoon.

2. Mix flour, nuts, baking soda, baking powder and add to 1 slowly.

3. pour in pan and bake at 350F for 45 mintes.

Finish:

Blue tulip frosting.

 

December 28, 2008

Dream

Filed under: Quotes

A Dream is not what you see in sleep, a dream is what does not let you to sleep.

- APJ Abdul Kalam

11th President of India

October 9, 2008

Airplane Joke - NaBloWriMo

Filed under: Fun, Travel

Pilot - "Folks, we have reached our cruising altitude now, so I am going to switch the seat belt sign off. Feel free to move about as you wish, but please stay inside the plane till we land … it’s a bit cold outside, and if you walk on the wings it affects the flight pattern."

And, after landing: "Thank you for flying Delta Business Express. We hope you enjoyed giving us the business as much as we enjoyed taking you for a ride."

More at http://www.101funjokes.com/airplane-jokes.htm

October 8, 2008

Joke - NaBloWriMo

Filed under: Fun

A worldwide survey was conducted by the! UN. The only question asked was:
‘Would you please give your honest opinion about solutions to the food
shortage
in the rest of the world?’

The survey was a huge failure, In Africa they didn’t know what ‘food’
meant, In India they didn’t know what ‘honest’ meant,
In Europe they didn’t know what ’shortage’ meant, In China they didn’t
know what ‘opinion’ meant,
In the Middle East they didn’t know what ’solution’ meant, In South
America
they didn’t know what ‘please’ meant,
And in the USA they didn’t know what ‘the rest of the world’ meant!

 

 

Entry to NaBloWriMo

October 7, 2008

Man’s Search For Meaning - Viktor E. Frankl

Filed under: Books, Learning, Quotes, Scribbles

"it did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were questioned by life-daily and hourly. Our answer must consist , not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibilty to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual."

 

Viktor E Frankl is a world war 2 concentration camp survivor, psychologist by profession. This book discusses how meaning is very important to living life, especially at times when it looks like you are just waiting for a dishonorable death. The above passage says that life does not come with a meaning but we have to give life a meaning by our true actions. For the same set of factors in life, every individual will make a different meaning and this meaning can never be the same for any 2.

Sufferings are part of life. The sooner we accept it and deal with it, better our life will be. Personally I believe, it is through the hard times during sufferings that character is strongly forged.

 

Entry to      DISCOVERIES

October 4, 2008

Epilogue

Filed under: People, Scribbles

I knew her when she was more mature,

I heard from many that

she was quite short-tempered in her youth,

she used to be the tit-for-tat type.

In that case,

 it is even more amazing to imagine the personal struggle

 she must have gone through

to make herself a work of art, towards improvement.

She was love personified, ever forgiving,

sympathetic towards the cynics,

empathetic to the sufferings of the less fortunate.

She had the tenacity and persistence to follow her dreams.

Most importantly, she was able to endure when things did not go her way.

She was always there for her family and friends,

always thought of the footprints she left behind,

careful not to hurt another soul or the planet.

She was always trying to perfect herself as a fellow human.

She loved her family but often found difficulty expressing it.

She was involved in a detached way.

October 2, 2008

Success

Filed under: Quotes

He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much; Who has enjoyed the trust of pure women, the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; Who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; Who has never lacked appreciation of Earth’s beauty or failed to express it; Who has left the world better than he found it, Whether an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; Who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; Whose life was an inspiration; Whose memory a benediction.

- Bessie Anderson Stanley

Beach

Filed under: Scribbles

Rhythmic waves rise and fall, but never spill.

Each fall followed by a taller wave which also falls.

A successful surfer is riding the highs and the lows with ease.

Oh, How I wish I knew to surf the ocean waves and days like her…

And never to lose enthusiasm for the sport, no matter what the drop is.

 

 

 

 

Entry to  REVISITATION

August 28, 2008

Inviting Silence - Gunilla Norris

Filed under: Religion, Books

Other books I have read that have led up to this: Eat, Pray, and Love; The Way of the Heart; Life of the Beloved.

I have realized the value of silence and agree with Confucius that Silence is the friend that never betrays. I can write an entire blog on this alone.

This book starts with a quote from Meister Eckhart "Nothing in all creation is so like God as silence." I came to the same conclusion at Mexico, am I smart or what :)

Some lines I liked:

Suffering:

Through the practice of silence we become aware

of our pain. The pain is always there in our minds

and in our bodies. Silence allows us to see it,

 face it, release it.

We constantly judge ourselves.

Our mind decides what our experiences should be or should not be -

relentlessly labeling things good or bad -

demanding that our lives conform to our labels.

Then,when pain comes into our lives

-and it does to every life - we do not only suffer it,

but we suffer our suffering as well.

We add the mind’s harsh judgment of pain

to our actual experience of it.

 

By practicing silence, we may discover the ways

in which we intensify our pain by judging it.

Then we have a chance to become less harsh,

more forgiving.

….

By cultivating silence, we can find and release

deeper and deeper levels of pain and so discover

once again what is beneath the pain:

the natural joy that is already inside us,

free to rise and flow into expression.

July 19, 2008

Cancun, Mexico “Silence, Solitude, Serene, Peace, Bliss”

Filed under: Religion, Travel

Cancun means snake nest. If I had known that before, I would have never gone there. But, this trip was definitely a divine calling. I had no plans, no maps, no reservations, no GPS, no directions, no habla espanol. But the most important thing was that I was placed in IMMENSE solitude and  silence. The first day, I was very uncomfortable. It made me look inward and I am not used to that. I was beginning to question the purpose of existence. I mean, WHY are we here? For making money, enjoying the pleasures, being good to others???  WHAT is the point?

But, by the time I left, I realized that solitude and silence are the ultimate ways to be one with the Infinite. After all, Buddha, Jesus, and all the great ones had to go through years of it to maintain their serenity, peace, and bliss.

I have definitely not got answers to my questions. It is okay, I will keep seeking. It took the great Enlightened one 39 days in a forest. I am a mere mortal, I can wait longer. Most important thing is, I feel initiated on this spiritual journey. Cancun vacation turned out to be my pilgrimage. I am so glad I went alone to a place where it was a chore to talk, even for me :) , with native spanish.

I am beginning to think the reason for life is to seek this ultimate truth. To be one with nature. To feel the great bliss of being one with the Infinite, being the infinite.

I am going to do this travelling once a year without my husband. My daughter proves to be a great travel companion.

On my birthday, I have promised myself a few gifts:

1. slow down,

2. 1 hour of silence and solitude everyday in the morning,

3. being humble enough to pray for what I seek everyday, being grateful is not enough, aspirations are necessary.

4. I am only accountable to myself.

Also, I was surprised at how my last blog on Carly’s last 2 paragraphs applied to me to the point. We did have 2 hour breakfasts!!!!

July 4, 2008

Tough Choices| A Memoir - Carly Fiorina

Filed under: Books

Between Osama and Carly I have read a few more books about Bill Clinton (Giving), Barrack Obama (Audacity of Hope), Neil Armstrong (A Giant Leap), Einstein and a non-fiction by Nelson Demille (Wildfires). The only one I was close to blog about was Wildfires, it had a strange view on Iraq war and was written with humor.

I like reading biographies  and auto-biographies because people interest me. I picked Carly because I was eyeing it sometime ago and now I had a chance to read it. I wanted to know what would a labeled loser like her have to say? How will she be able to self-portray her public-perceived flaws? How does she make peace with the society that hated her? It does take a lot of courage and perspective. I will also definitely give you my word, along the same lines I will read GWB’s book as soon as he writes(??).

The book was a short one, a quick read. I learnt so much about her and how the media was focusing on her looks and gender instead of her performance. All leaders have to pay a price, Carly paid it to press. While her decision of the HP-Compaq merger was highly criticized, there are a lot who believe it laid the foundations for HP to perform better than Dell after she left HP itself. Sometimes, timing is everything. I don’t know if she was a great leader or not, but she was honest and candid, qualities I admire, which ex-CEOs of TYCO, ENRON, and WORLDCOM and Larry of Oracle don’t possess. Even if she did make a stupid decision, the court itself decided in 2002 it was not based on corruption on her part. She did what she truly believed in.

Some excerpts I liked &/or agree with:

My boss was absolutely right (on not taking a hard job), and it was why I wanted to go. It was brand-new. Every one was trying to figure it out. Maybe I could help. It was chaotic - maybe that would be exciting. It was difficult work - I wanted a challenge. It didn’t bother me that it wasn’t a typical move. I was looking for interesting work where I could make a real difference.

xxxx

That night, after I’d cried long enough, I made a decision. I would not cry again over others’ prejudice. Sure, what people thought or said about me might hurt. What people did to me might hurt as well, but I would not carry their narrow-mindedness or bias as my burden…I would accomplish all I was capable of. I would concentrate on doing what I believed were the right things for the right reasons to the best of my ability. Some, perhaps even many, might believe I couldn’t or shouldn’t , do what I chose. That would be their problem, not mine. They would not wound me again. I had decided once that my life was my own. Now I decided my heart would be my own as well.

…since 1986 I have saved my tears for more important things: my family, the beauty of nature, Beethoven, a dear friend, the goodness of people, their wisdom, their tragedies or their triumphs.

xxxx

I love to watch the sun rise and the sun set. I take comfort in the everyday event and feel wonder knowing that it will never be the same. I love the slower, natural cadence of my life. i love to fall asleep at night and awake when I choose. I love to do something on the spur of the moment…I love to spend a day, as I am today, in the company of children with nothing particular to do and nowhere particular to go.

I believe I have been blessed all my life. I feel blessed today - blessed to have had the opportunities and the experiences…

June 15, 2008

Father’s Day

Filed under: People, Lifestyle, Food Blogs

Shashi is surpassing my enthu for blogs by ordering me to take this picture last night and blog on it. Love you, Shashiemoticon

I just noticed that the middle item was not labeled, it was the crowning jewel of the evening - Moghalai Chicken Briyani.

What Do I blog on this?

- People who think I don’t know anything other than Work and workout, please look at the picture, it speaks far more than a 1000 words. (except I never published my blog site to many who think so)

- I can’t take credit for all the stuff on this plate. 2 more friends did bring food too. Shashi’s Kofta is the best I have had so far. Muni’s Chicken items got great reviews too.

- Eating like this will cause us to walk more in the park, not to mention all the soda and strawberry mousse cake. Same friends who gave me company yesterday will accompany me in the walking too, right ;)

LONG LIVE OCCASIONS THAT MAKE US MEET AND EAT!!!!

 

PS: I think eating animals is not advisable when we can survive without murdering other life forms. I AM A PROUD VEGETARIAN! But I love many non-vegetarians and animals that eat other animals, like Shamu. :)






















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